When did you stop saying yes to the things that you desire?
I'm not talking about the big things... the small ones, like spending a little extra time outdoors, driving with no destination, or enjoying laughing at a joke without feeling immediately guilty afterwards.
P.L.A.Y.™
practices for levity, awe & yes
6 short practices - guided by voice, for finding lightness again, even while you're still carrying your grief
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Grief doesn't just take the big things, it takes your 'yes.' Meaning you find it harder to say yes to things out of fear... especially the spontaneous, unplanned kind, that used to come easy before you learned to brace for whatever might happen next. When you were focused on surviving your loss, you became careful because being careful felt like the smart, easy thing to do. It's also exhausting to live in forever.
P.L.A.Y.™ is about finding your way back to lightness anyway, and in doses small enough that it doesn't feel like you're betraying who or what you lost.
What Six Short Practices Can Actually Shift
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You start to remember what wonder feels like
Sis, when was the last time you experienced wonder? Grief narrows your focus down only to what hurts. These practices widen it back out, toward things that are funny, unexpectedly beautiful, or even strange... on purpose.
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You catch your own reflexive 'no'
At some point, 'no' became your default answer to the spontaneity of any and everything you couldn't plan for, because grief causes you to crave routine and predictability. These practices help you notice that reflex before you act on it so you can choose again (if you want to).
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You get to feel light without earning it first
In grief, we feel undeserving of pleasure and enjoyment because we feel entitled to the heaviness. We start to believe feeling the weight of our grief keeps us close to who or what we lost. But lightness doesn't have to be a reward for integrating or processing your grief. It can show up at any time, and you're allowed to let it stay a while.
What's Inside...
P.L.A.Y.™ is six short practices, split across three things grief tends to diminish first.
>> Levity. Permission to feel light without feeling guilty.
>> Awe. Noticing something bigger and more enjoyable than what's been taking up all your attention lately.
>> Yes. Catching your own 'no' before you say it out of habit, and allowing yourself to answer differently when you want to.
Every practice comes with a short guided audio track, in Amber's own voice, so you can close your eyes and be guided through it for the full experience.
Takes about ten minutes. Some you'll do once and move on. Some you'll come back to more than you expect because they'll be exactly what your body needs.
Who This Is For
This is for you if you've noticed yourself getting careful, saying no out of habit, and you'd like to feel a little lighter without pretending everything is fine. It's not about forcing joy, it's about noticing when it shows up and letting it stay.
**This isn't for you yet if your emotions still feel too raw. Start with P.U.L.S.E.™ first, or just rest. This will still be here.
Questions
Sometimes experiencing joy and lightness feels like I'm performing being okay.
Nothing here asks you to perform "being okay." It's about noticing those small moments of lightness that already exist, not manufacturing ones that don't.
What if nothing feels light right now?
That's alright, and it's useful information too. A few of the practices are built for exactly that, because noticing what's missing is still noticing.
How is this different from P.U.L.S.E.?
P.U.L.S.E. is about noticing sensations in your body when you start to experience them. PLAY is about spontaneity and saying 'yes' again, and a different part of your body waking back up.
Ready to Feel Light Again?
"Losing my baby boy is the hardest thing I've had to go through so saying yes to new things didn't feel right. (until I tried it) I'm so glad that I did."
Mel P.
"I didn't even realize I could want to experience new things while grieving. PLAY is the first thing that helped me see it. Thank you, Amber."
Nona R.
Built by Someone Who
Needed This Too
Grief diminished my own sense of play long before I knew it had even happened. These practices came from finding my way back to it myself, not from a theory about how someone else should.
